After 6 long years, I have decided to give my wedding dress away. I’m hoping the next girl that wears it will be as beautiful on her day as I was on mine. Okay, let me stop, by now I’m sure most of you are wondering when I got married as I’ve never mentioned a husband and those of you who are close friends are probably gearing up to send me a “WTF” text. Don’t worry, the boy still hasn’t proposed and we didn’t elope behind your back. However, I really did giveaway a wedding dress, but not one that was worn to a wedding!
I gave away the wedding dress I wore to May Day, a HUGE traditional ceremony for all the graduating girls at my high school. May Day is a highly anticipated event in which all of the graduating senior girls wear wedding dresses to perform a maypole dance. The event is rooted in European pagan rituals and once served as a presentation of women, ready to be married, to society (i.e. eligible husbands). While I’m unsure if this was ever the purpose of the event at my high school, I know that for many years May Day has served as a presentation and celebration of young women ending one chapter of life and embarking on a new one (college). While the day itself is unforgettable because of its grandeur and beauty, the preparation leading up to the big day is just as special.
Unfortunately for some families, they don’t get to enjoy the preparation due to the cost of the wedding dress (combined with insane cost of tuition, but that’s a conversation for another day). While there are no requirements on what you spend, every girl wants to look beautiful at May Day and even a “cheap” gown is going to cost a couple of hundred dollars and that doesn’t even factor in alterations. Coming from a single-parent home, I know all too well what this can be like. I’m fortunate that my experience wasn’t marred or stressful because of finances, but recognize it probably would have been had we been unable to afford a dress. That’s why when I got an email from the Head of School, requesting alumnae donate their dresses I was more than happy to oblige. In fact, I texted some of my closest high school friends to be sure they had seen the email and offered to play a role in getting their dresses where they needed to go. While I’ve only had one friend take me up on my offer, I’m hoping to persuade a few others so that other young ladies can enjoy May Day as we did.
This is the first big thing I’ve done for someone else this year and I can’t put it into words how it makes me feel knowing someone will wear this dress again. If you’re in the St. Louis area and have a May Day dress (or wedding dress, judge free zone here folks) you would like to donate, please let me know and I will assist you in getting it to the right people. If you’re not in St. Louis, I implore you to give your dress a second chance at life and find an organization to donate it to. Always remember that it’s a blessing to be a blessing.