Great news Royals! Knight Vision Photography has officially done its first engagement shoot! What made it even more special is that it was at Busch Stadium and we got an amazing mini tour and to take pictures in the dugout and what not. Being the diligent assistant that I am, I started looking up the best hashtags to use on social media for engagement pictures. While doing this, I stumbled across several pictures of women rocking “promise rings”. It has been quite a while since I heard someone mention a promise ring and I was genuinely shocked that people still gave them to their significant others. I started doing more snooping and was surprised to find many of the women showing off their promise rings looked to be in their mid-twenties or older. At this point, my mind flashed back to an episode of Love & Hip Hop Atlanta when Mama Dee’s beau gave her a promise ring (just for reference, this woman is probably at least 50 years old). I immediately began to question why these women would except promise rings in lieu of an engagement ring at an age that seems appropriate to be getting married. I decided to do a little research to understand exactly what promise rings are and what they symbolize.
According to The Knot the meaning of a promise ring is defined by each couple, but typically serves as a symbol of commitment. Kimberly Canary, vice president of social media and public relations at Kay Jewelers, says that “many couples use the symbol [promise ring] as a way to signify a future engagement, others simply wear the ring as a means of reflecting devotion to one another”. Another professional in the jewelry business noted an increase in the popularity of promise rings and believes it is related to the increased trend of cohabitation prior to marriage many couples partake in.
The idea of giving a ring as a commitment of love dates back to 16th century England. Recently, the meaning of promise rings has slightly changed for some people to include a promise to abstain from sex until marriage. It seems that regardless of the time period, promise rings represent a commitment to a romantic relationship between two people.
As far as ring style, anything goes. There are a lot fewer “traditional” standards and these rings tend to be more fashionable. The value of a promise ring is not determined by the metal its made of or whether or not it contains diamonds. Promise rings can be worn on any finger, but are often worn on the left ring finger by unmarried women and the right ring finger by married women.
So now the burning question..how old is too old for a promise ring? From my
google search research there does not seem to be an age limit on promise rings. Many sites did mention promise rings serving as a pre-engagement ring so I would assume people would be at an age where marriage was possible. According to the internet, the decision to gift and subsequently wear a promise ring is really up to individual couples. I know for me personally, I’d think The Boy was totally out of his mind if he called himself giving me a promise ring. At this point, we’ve been together for over four years and we’re both getting older. We both know whether or not we want to marry each other. There is no need for him to promise me to one day propose marriage. The way I see it, for people in long term relationships, they can either sh*t or get off the pot….but that’s just me.
I will admit that I was quite surprised to learn (and liked the idea) of a promise ring meaning whatever a couple wants it to. Perhaps if I were still in undergrad or at a place in life where my ideas of marriage were only what I could dream up on a Pinterest board, I would be into the idea of my man giving me a promise ring. At the end of the day, regardless if you will accept a promise ring or not, it can’t be denied that it is a lovely gesture to show your commitment to your significant other.
How do you feel about promise rings? Did your man give you one? Would you accept a promise ring from your man? How old do you think is too old for a promise ring?