I’m a firm believer that friendships develop in the most unlikely of places. Most people don’t go to work to make friends, but if they are fortunate enough to connect with someone the relationship may not get too deep since after all you know one another professionally. However, I’ve been blessed not just to find someone I kind of like at my job, but someone that I actually want to spend time with outside of work and in the short time that we’ve been closer probably knows me as well as my college friends. Now while some of you may think I’m crazy for letting a co-worker into my inner circle, I’m here to tell you that it has made me realize we all need to have a best friend at work!
3 Reasons You Need a Best Friend at Work and How to Find One
- When sh*t gets rough, there is someone that feels your pain. It seems that no matter how large the corporation is, they are all susceptible to less than ideal times (hello United Airlines). Maybe the company has several bad quarters or there is a pain in the behind manager no one likes. Regardless of the details, things are bound to get a little hard and your work bestie is going to get it with no explanation needed. He/she will be just as worried about what a bad fiscal year means for your job as you are. They will probably also detest that pain in the butt manager just as much as you do. You will be able to support each other through the roller coaster that can be employment.
- You’ve got someone that will always have your back. Have you ever been in a team meeting and had to watch as the boss or a fellow co-worker makes someone else look like a fool or maybe they just won’t let anyone else get a word in? Having a bestie that has your back in the room can go along way in office politics. My bestie and I often go into meetings already knowing how the other feels, what they’ll say, and how we can jump in to show support if need be.
- You’ve got someone to hang out with outside of work. In many instances, by the time you graduated from high school and college, your friends are scattered all across the county. Many may be headed back home to a city with no old friends or are taking on a brand new city where they don’t know anyone. This means you’re in that awkward situation of needing to find friends, but having to work 40+ hours a week and adult when you’re not there. Having a best friend at work makes life SO much easier because you aren’t awkwardly searching facebook for girls that LOOK like they might be cool and praying they don’t think you’re crazy when you send that “hey, wanna be my friend?” message.
Now the tough part of this is actually fostering this unique relationship.In my opinion, it’s easier to befriend co-workers who are your age. The two of you are probably at very similar places in life and have more in common than you think. For example, my work bestie actually has a really close friend that I went to high school with. We both love wine, snuggling with our fur babies, Grey’s Anatomy, and have a similar distaste for some of the things that go on in our office. You may also find friendship that reminds you of an important person in your life. My mom’s closest friend at work is a young woman that reminds her of me. They have a mother-daughter-friend relationship. The most important part of any new friendship is being open, honest, and a good listener. My WBF (work best friend) has counseled me through many situations and always gives me such good advice and I strive to do the same for her when asked. Having a WBF can honestly a dead end job or a bad day less painful.
Do you have a best friend at work? Tell me about him/her! How do you make friends at work?
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